#326: Black and White Burnout Thinking

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Hey coaches, welcome to episode 326. Today we’re going to talk about black and white burnout thinking. So let me explain. I am in the middle of delivering my newest entrepreneur series course, Capacity Work. And I believe capacity work goes hand in hand with recovering from, keeping out of, and freeing yourself from burnout.

Burnout, in my belief, comes greatly from your emotional and your mental capacity. I’m going to explain why throughout this episode, but I’ve been coaching a lot on that. So we did an entire call just on burnout and how to expand your capacity and increase it physically, mentally, and emotionally. So all the trifecta on being able to expand those without burning out. And so I taught my process that has kept me out of burnout. And I also did some coaching on some specific scenarios with clients and I’ve been coaching on the page and helping people unwind their deep fears of burnout or their current burnout and exhaustion.

And one of the things that has come up is when I speak to people who have experienced a deep amount of burnout in their lives in the past, whether it was associated with their business or they left their current corporate job, or their whatever they were doing prior to coaching that they got burnout, then they got a coach and helped relieve their burnout and then decided to become a coach.

And then so there’s a couple of different paths, right? You’re either in current burnout, you got into coaching because you were burned out, and some of you even become burnout coaches. And in all the people who have fears around burnout, when I have these conversations with them and when I coach them, what typically comes up is black and white thinking around burnout.

So what this looks like, and this is the same thing as a-or-nothing thinking, it’s just it either is this or that. There’s no other version to look at. So that’s all-or-nothing, black and white, however you wanna call it, it’s either black or it’s white, right? It’s either all or it’s nothing.

And so the way this presents with burnout is the options that people present themselves with are I’m either going to burn out, or I can’t push myself ever. I have to listen to my body every time it says it might be tired. Like I can’t even challenge its tiredness.

Every time I have to stay away, I have to rest immediately. And I’ve had several clients that have said, I have to listen to my body every time it says it’s tired, but it always says it’s tired. And the body will do that. The body will say it’s always tired. It becomes a loop that you just live into. So either way, without going down that rabbit hole, this is black or white thinking where there’s just no middle ground. And the way I love to coach is that there’s always a middle ground.

Whether you’re in an entrepreneur series course with me or any of my core offers, 2K, 200K, $2 Million Group, I coach this way in a lot. People bring me all types of versions of black or white, all-or-nothing thinking, and I always present to them the third option, the middle ground.

So in this case, in this scenario, the middle ground requires knowing what type of burnout you’re actually experiencing. So there are two types. Physical burnout, and I label this as not enough rest, overworking physically in massive access, in massive access, I cannot talk today, massive excess. This looks like working, you know, chronic 75-, 80-hour work weeks or more consistently for long periods of time, working 12-hour days consistently for long periods, 15-hour days consistently for long periods of time, and not properly resting, not having proper nutrition, ignoring body signals.

These are things that happen when you physically burn out. Ignoring body signals, improper things that need to happen for you to be a physically well human like sleep and nutrition. But I think that the majority of people do not actually experience physical burnout. Now they might have symptoms that come with ignoring their body signals, right? We can have weight gain, we can have health issues from ignoring body signals, but actually like burning out and having a deep crash that requires maybe hospitalization or taking significant time off work, I don’t actually think this happens as often as we think it does.

And even if this has been your experience, I want you to just, instead of being mad at me that I said that, hang with me. The people who did in the Capacity training, their lives were changed. Because the way I’m going to explain it to you is not all-or-nothing. So it’s not either physical or emotional. There’s a middle ground. And I think we have so much power over the middle ground.

Okay, and the way I like to think about this, I will say before I dive into the second type of burnout, is I always think about people I know who have pushed extreme physical limits without burning out.

So my dad worked 12-hour shifts, sometimes seven days a week, my entire life. I’ve never known him to not be working that hard. My husband’s dad also worked six days a week at his full-time job and then also ran a six-figure business on the side on the nights and weekends, and never burnt out.

So I know that we have the ability to work long hours and not burn out. I think about this all the time for people who work in news or politicians like presidents and things like that where they’re just on all the time. I do think it creates physical signs. You can see sometimes when presidents leave the office that they’ve grayed in an eight-year period or a four-year period.

But I love to be in the middle ground where I believe that what contributes to burnout the most, what’s actually the biggest factor, and some of you that are burnout coaches are gonna like be like, hell yeah, say it louder, is emotional, the emotional aspect of it. So there’s physical burnout and then there’s emotional burnout.

And emotional burnout, the way I like to think about it, is it’s tiredness and exhaustion from thoughts and emotions depleting your energy. I believe most of us experience emotional burnout, and even if you’ve experienced physical burnout before, it’s possible, it’s highly likely that emotional burnout played a big part in that and it created the physical aspects not being sustainable because they weren’t held up by powerful thoughts and emotions.

I also like to think about what would, especially if you had like a lot of lawyers, doctors, people who really are pushed to their extreme limits in their jobs as sort of a chronic way that the industry operates. For a lot of those people, I think it’s just calming and reassuring if this is you to also think about this.

If you’re afraid of it in your coaching business, I really believe with coaching, the profession of being a coach or a life coach, with the profession of being an online marketer, like someone who markets and sells on the internet, you are likely ever only going to be in emotional burnout territory. This isn’t working 72-hour COVID shifts as a hospitalist for weeks and months and years on end. Right? This is talking to people online over Zoom.

And sometimes that’s really helpful to just tell our brains when we’re in an emotional experience, when we’re having an emotional resistance, when something’s being brought up, a trauma from the past, and if you ever have physically burnt out, you might have experienced trauma from that, especially if you had really strong physical symptoms, illness that came with it. So it’s just your brain doesn’t respond to the logical way.

So it’s not if you get tired in your coaching business, it’s not telling you this is talking to people online and over Zoom and this is not the same thing as 72-hour COVID shifts as a hospitalist, right? Your emotional world thinks it’s the same. Your brain starts screaming at you as if it’s the same.

So I think it’s really helpful to just tell yourself this is coaching, this is talking to people online and over Zoom. And so most likely, if I ever experience burnout, it will be emotional burnout, and I can have power over that, I can fix that. I can work through that.

So the middle, the middle ground of all-or-nothing, black and white burnout thinking is knowing what you are actually experiencing and then trusting in your ability to pay attention to your mind and your body and do something about it when it offers you signals. This is also how we end in burnout. Our brain and our body offers us signals and we ignore them.

And I’ve been telling all of my students who have been doing this, it’s always really powerful to figure out why. Why do you ignore your brain and your body and the signals it gives you? People sometimes think when I’m teaching capacity the way they hear it the first time or even when I’m marketing capacity, they might hear it as me telling people, you just gotta keep going. You gotta just push through those signals. You gotta be stronger than those signals. But that’s not actually what I’m saying.

I’m actually saying that you have to catch it the moment you have a signal and listen to it and address it. And if you don’t, again, that’s the real thing to solve. Why don’t I listen to my body when it speaks to me physically or emotionally? I listen to my body a lot. I don’t do what it says all of the time, but I hear it out. I understand it. I want to connect with it and then I want to guide it in the best way that my conscious brain thinks is the way to go with my dreams, goals, desires, and who I want to be, and the capacity I want to have.

But I think about this a lot because I don’t think I’ve ever been in true burnout with my business in 10 years. It’s not something I’m typically afraid of. This is something I just don’t coach with my coaches on. I don’t have a lot of fear of it. I’m not saying I’ve never had it. I just, when I think about it, there isn’t like a time that sticks out of like, oh, I was in such burnout. And I’ve been through really hard times in my business. I’ll give you some examples on this episode, but I’ve been through some really hard times.

But I listen to my body a lot and I’m not afraid of my body or at war with it, we’re on the same side. That’s also a great thought, you can borrow it. Something else I taught my Capacity Work students is I treat myself like an asset and I showed them what that looks like.

And to give you an idea, I sleep well on most days, unless my three-year-old is not sleeping. But on most days, I sleep well. My husband takes a lot of the brunt of getting up in the middle of the night with my son. I physically move. I eat really good, and I have great nutrition overall, and I rest, recover, and downregulate properly. And I did actually walk my Capacity Work students through my process of that.

So there are things you can actually do to rest and recover, downregulate, and steer your increasing capacity energy that you produce when you’re working to increase your capacity. Like that can be harnessed or reined in. You can actually mold that and do what you want with it.

It’s not like, oh, I just increased my capacity and it goes everywhere until I run out again and burn down. I get to mold it, I get to use it properly. And using it properly comes with rest, recover, and down-regulation. But most importantly, are the thoughts that hold up the work I do. My self-talk, what’s happening in my emotional world when I’m doing things. And I want to say that again because I really want you to hear it. Most importantly are the thoughts that hold up the work I do. My self-talk, what’s happening in my emotional world when I’m working or when I’m doing things. When I’m mommying, when I’m organizing the house, when I’m traveling, anything I’m doing, my emotional world, what’s happening there, changes whether I have energy at the end or I feel exhausted and depleted.

If you understand that, you really understand the key to life. Like if you have the power to really do this work, it’s everything. And one of the things I want you to consider is that it takes a lot of energy to operate in resistance, in lack, in insufficiency. I believe it takes up the most energy. That is my experience. I’ve gone to test this, grow awareness around this, and pay attention to it. When I’m in resistance, lack, insufficiency, in negative thought spirals, they take up the most energy.

This is why I believe capacity work is so important. Capacity isn’t just more done in less time. I think that’s what people think it is. It’s not pushing physical limits beyond what you’re already doing. It’s being more capable in all areas of your life. It’s more capable emotionally, more capable physically, more capable mentally. It’s a higher level of emotional resilience and intelligence. It’s a higher level of mental capacity to focus, problem solve, learn new things, and execute without procrastination and drama. It is a higher level of physical energy and capability because the mind is managed so well, and the belief in capabilities is so high.

So when you do Capacity Work, your physical energy goes up because of the quality of your thinking, the emotional vibrations in your body holding you up throughout the day, creating the actions you take all day long, every day, little and big, and how fast you recover from difficult circumstances and emotions.

When you have a higher level of capacity and emotional resilience and mental capability, you don’t stay in difficult circumstances and emotions as long. And you get to where you need to be faster. On Day 2 of Capacity Work, I actually broke this process down for my students, exactly how this happens. The resilience when hard emotions appear, and then how the transition can happen quicker, and then how that actually creates more energy and space throughout your day to get more of what you actually want to do done and live more of your life the way you intend.

Very intentionally being present with your children, engaging with your children, bringing in more intimacy in your marriage, taking those long walks, getting fresh air, being physically active, all of those things, along with hitting the goals that your business has, your company has, all of those things come down to energy. And so doing this work gives you back more and more and more of it.

And I always tell my students that in order to have a big up-level, in order to grow, go from $100k to $200k or $200k to $500k or $500k to a million or a million to three million, you have to have energy. You have to be operating the current revenue, the business that creates the current revenue you have, and then you’ve got to have way more energy to then give to your bigger goals and to expanding and doing more for those things. Learning different skill sets, showing up more and being more visible, giving more value, serving your clients better. You’ve got to have energy.

I also believe the more that you do this work, the more wins you have, more accomplishments you create, and when you are just in general acting in alignment with desires, it just gives us life. It makes us feel more alive. And I also believe we never feel more dread and more dead than when we spend our days telling ourselves that we’re tired, exhausted, can’t do the things that we want to do, not smart enough, not good enough, don’t know how or aren’t even capable of figuring it out. This is draining. It burns you out from your own self. And then whatever you are doing, suddenly you want to take a break. But it never gets fixed because you take yourself everywhere, how you think and how you feel and the way you tell stories about your life and the way you see your life.

Your inner dialogue goes everywhere with you. So you can stop that inner dialogue with a break, but then it comes right back as soon as you go back into the circumstance, as soon as you go back to working. And it’s so helpful, at least for me to think of it as like you are actually the thing you’re sick of, not the work.

I’m sick of me doing the work. That is the more honest truth. I know it’s hard to hear. I’m gonna make it light so that maybe you can receive it that way, but it really is true. If you really think about it, if you play around with it for one day and you see what I’m saying, at the end of the day you’ll be like, you’re right, it’s not the work I’m sick of. I actually desire to do the work. I actually want the result the work will produce, but I’m sick of myself doing the work. I’m sick of myself in the process. I’m sick of how I engage with it. I’m sick of how I feel when I’m doing it, but how I feel when I’m doing it is directly created by how I’m thinking when I do it, my brain.

So your inner world is what is exhausting, not the work. It’s so important to tell yourself that, to just recognize that. And it allows us to open up that middle ground where it’s not just either do the work or rest. It could be do the work and do it in a way that’s exhilarating. Do the work and do it in a way where you like yourself, where you love your inner world.

I wanna be the person who loves taking me everywhere. I wanna take myself to all good things, but I also wanna take myself to all challenging circumstances. And I want it to be the same self both times. And I have worked very hard on this. I will tell you, very, very, very, very, very hard on this. And I currently work very, very, very, very hard on this.

But the same me that coaches my clients and goes and does million-dollar launches, I want that person to approach the deepest challenges or the little annoying new circumstances throughout the day. I want to grow my capacity to take that version of me everywhere. And then my world isn’t exhausting, it’s energizing.

But it’s just that it’s your inner world creating it, not the physical things most of us are doing. Now, I do wanna say, I do think you can have physical symptoms, this is why it gets confusing, from prolonged depression, anxiety, and mental and emotional exhaustion. So I do think the body will eventually manifest physically, whether it’s in physical symptoms, chronic pain, or illness, and even chronic illness, autoimmune disease. I think our body produces illness when it has prolonged symptoms of mental and emotional exhaustion. They get manifest into the body. That is my belief.

And I have had clients explain that physical things happen for them. Like the diagnosis they’ve gotten, the illnesses that have been created through burnout, and that have come as a result of working too hard and burning out. And in that case, even if you are sure it was actual physical exhaustion and not enough rest, Like if it was, you’re actually sure it was from overworking, working too many hours, not getting adequate sleep. I mean adequate, not even like ideal sleep, but just adequate sleep, not getting adequate nutrition, basic human needs.

I still really encourage you to see where your mind and how you spoke about things and how you felt emotionally about things and the weight of that story, of that experience, how that could have contributed. And I also highly encourage you to go back and think about if you can remember cues, physical and emotionally, that your body gave you that you ignored. Finding all the ways in your life where you ignore yourself is really worthy time spent in your self-coaching.

I even do this with decisions that I later regret. I’m like, where did I ignore myself? Where was there some red flag inside of me that I ignored and didn’t address? And that shows me, not always, but a lot of times it shows me where I could have made a better decision or acted differently. And then I learn and I grow from that.

I want you to know that I do get that there are physical representations, whether it comes from physical burnout or emotional burnout, I do know that burnout can cause really terrible illnesses. I do get that. So I’m not saying someone made it up. I’m not saying it’s not really true. I’m not saying that it’s impossible that it would happen again. But I do think the way it happens is the way I’ve laid out.

And even if it’s this and that, right, it’s physical and emotional, we just have so much power over the emotional. When I had my baby, I’ve talked about this many times on the podcast, I had really bad postpartum anxiety, like really bad. It was so bad that I couldn’t sleep, not getting adequate sleep. Every time I would close my eyes, and this is very common for women who have had babies, so I’ve heard, is that my brain would just tell me, like, if you sleep, he’s going to die. He’s going to die in his sleep. You’ve got to stay awake. You’ve got to stay vigilant.

I remember the first week I had him, my sister is a nurse practitioner, and so she does 12-hour night shifts, and she came to my house and saw the state I was in. I hadn’t slept in like 80-something hours. It was a really long time. And then even after that, it was only a couple of hours here and there. I mean, it was like really, really sleep-deprived.

And she said, I will stay up with your baby through the entire night and you will go to sleep. And I will let you know when he needs something, but you need to sleep. And it was the first time knowing that someone would be there to watch him that I could go to sleep. And I eventually ended up hiring a night nurse for that exact reason. I just needed to be able to know someone was watching him so that I could go to sleep because my brain would tell me these awful, terrible things.

And with postpartum anxiety, with intrusive thoughts, the moment you, sometimes you’re not even aware you’re thinking them yet until you feel them in your body. But the way you feel them isn’t quite the same as when you feel a, I guess a normal emotional response from a normal thought. If you have a negative thought and you have a negative emotion, especially for you all that are coaches, many of you know the process of catching that.

And even if you still are engaging with it and you, you know, some part of you believes it, there’s another part of you that has an ability to coach it and to question it and to examine it and to disengage with it. But with these intrusive thoughts they would come and then my body would engage in a way that had never happened before. And it would be like living this terrible thought like my child’s death, it would be living it in my brain and body as if it was happening either had happened already or was happening in the current moment.

I would go into sometimes panic, just really like fight or flight, an aggressive fight or flight response, and a very unregulated state. And I didn’t have the control that I used to have or the ability to coach on that in the logical way that I have been able to in the past. I didn’t have the ability to disengage. And so what would happen is no sleep, no ability to disengage, I was getting physically ill over and over and over.

And my concierge doctor came many times, every time I got sick, and one day he sat me down, I think I might have been four months or six months or eight months postpartum, like somewhere, like a lot of women lose their postpartum around three months and it was going much longer than it should have. And my doctor said that my brain was literally wearing down my immune system and keeping me from properly resting, right? Things that we actually need in order to not physically burn out.

And in this particular case, I actually ended up, I coached on it for I think eight months and then we had like set some really specific markers of seeing if we could coach through it, because I really didn’t want to go on anxiety meds. But then in this case, I had to end up going on a really low-level anxiety med for a short period of time just to get distance from the assaulting thoughts so that I could rest, physically rest, sleep, and recover my immune system and my body, and then try to attack it again through coaching.

It was like, okay, at this point, your body is frail, and we need to get some physical sleep and rest and recover and some proper nutrition that happens when you physically sleep and get the things that you need. And so I really do understand that. I understand that there are situations, there are special cases where if you haven’t slept for a very long period of time, depression sneaks in, it becomes much harder to do all of the other things in life, and there are times where you have to physically care for yourself to get yourself to baseline, to then have the energy and the mental capacity to be able to address the emotional and mental aspects. So I wanna just be really like cognizant of that, careful with that, soft with that, and really let you hear me say that, I do get that.

And then, once I did get sleep, I had to also then work on getting stronger and better at managing it. So I did do a lot of coaching on this. And even now it started to come up while I’m pregnant again. I notice it, like thoughts with my son, but also thoughts with the baby. But this time I’m so much mentally stronger and I’m recognizing it faster and I’ve learned a lot of techniques to help me calm down and disengage. Or just even recover faster because the intrusive thoughts, again, they come so fast and they feel so true and I feel that in my body is that if it’s happened or happening, that there isn’t always time to catch it.

But even regulating my nervous system has become a big part of me overcoming this. Which, learning how to regulate your nervous system in really challenging experiences like this is capacity work. And honestly, so much of it has been expanding my capacity for happiness and joy and good things to happen to me. And we’ve talked about this in the Capacity Work container too, but we’re gonna do an entire call on this because I think it’s so important.

My brain has a very strong system of beliefs that bad things happened to me from childhood and then I lived into it a lot into my early adulthood before I found coaching. And so now I have this constant work that I have to be doing to grow my capacity to believe that I’m capable of holding joy, and having joy, and noticing the anxiety is coming from this deep subconscious place of not believing that. But that is the work and this is how I’ve been freeing myself, is when my brain offers me the intrusive thought, I offer capacity to hold joy and it has been working.

Now, I’m not in the postpartum experience yet, so we’ll see how that goes, but I know a lot more than I did now and I have so much more experience over it that I feel a lot more confident going into it. And that’s the point of this work, is even if you burn out a lot or if you had burnout a lot, even if you feel like you’re experiencing chronic burnout and exhaustion. For years, people have told me this. I really want you to get to the place where you believe, even if it happened again, you’d handle it so much better. And you wouldn’t end up in the exact same situation because you feel yourself getting stronger.

Another time where I experienced a physical manifestation of mental and emotional, I don’t know if you want to call it burnout, it didn’t feel that way to me, but it definitely felt like an extended period of chronic emotional and mental exhaustion is what I would have said. I was sleeping properly. I was getting adequate nutrition. Most of those things were in place, so I was having time off. I wasn’t working 80 hours a week or anything like that.

But I was also being attacked online and going through a really hard time of public criticism and even harassment and threats and lots of really hard stuff, for a very prolonged period of time while also going through postpartum anxiety, and I almost suffocated to death. I think I’ve talked about this on the podcast as well, or at least I thought I did. I mean, it was a very real physical experience.

The stress and the anxiety of allowing all of that into my world, and I say allowing it very intentionally, but allowing all of that hate to come into my world and into my inner world to create lack of safety and unregulation, created an issue with my esophagus where food would get stuck. And then it didn’t help if you compound this with I had a new baby and suddenly I’m eating faster and getting too hungry and speeding up my eating from being over hungry.

Do you hear that? That’s not business burnout or mom burnout. It’s not listening to my body and moving too fast to take intentional care. But that’s what was happening. And a lot of it was subconscious. I didn’t even realize how fast I would be eating until someone would point it out.

And so one day I started eating faster because I got over-hungry while having a really stressful conversation about my business with an employee. We were having a disagreement about something and it had gotten really kind of heated in a way that doesn’t typically. And we were in my home and my food got stuck at my windpipe, lodged right at my airway. And I couldn’t breathe and I couldn’t get the food to move. And I was aspirating and water was coming out. I’m vomiting up water, but the food’s not dislodging and I can’t breathe, like I’m stomping my feet on the ground, could not get air in it felt like if you were breathing through a straw and that straw was taken by like like cut in half that straw hole was like cut in half or even more and it was like the tiniest little bit where I was not passing out, but I couldn’t breathe.

I ended up having to go by ambulance because it prolonged and lasted for so long. Then they were afraid even if it did dislodge that it could come back up. So after this terrifying event and life-altering event for myself, the doctors later prescribed me Xanax, and they told me to try and get it down my throat if at all possible next time it happened or if it did happen again because it would relax my body to let the food go down and slow my breath so that I could take the short breaths I needed that are hard when you’re panicking.

Like the panicking part of it didn’t help. Like my baby’s in the basement. My brain’s telling me, oh my God, my baby’s like, they either bring him up and I see him for the last time and he sees me die or I never see my baby again. These are the things that are going through my brain and I’m panicking. And so then it’s even harder to breathe. And it was a really huge wake-up for me. It was a huge sign that I had to get my stress levels down, that I had to get ahold of my emotional and mental world, and I had to change things dramatically. But what solved it wasn’t people stopping attacking me online and behind the scenes in my business. Like the circumstance did not change.

And I have to just say, because I sometimes think people maybe hear me say it and the way they respond, they think that like, oh, people were just talking shit online and why didn’t you just ignore it? But that’s not really what was happening. I was emotionally extorted during that time, threatened that if I didn’t submit and do the things they wanted that they were going to go make all these really bad claims about me online. I was reported falsely to government agencies in which we had to deal with our lawyers and submit things every single time. I was threatened by male lawyers bullying me and making harsh threats and trying to scare me into submission. Thank God I have an all-female lawyer team who was not having it.

But there were a lot of targeted attacks and a lot of targeted attacks at new followers, listeners to this podcast. It was deep. There was a lot of organization that happened with it that I haven’t seen necessarily in other situations, that I saw in this situation. And it didn’t stop. It went on for years.

But here’s what I did. So I say this because I want you to know no matter what situation it is whether you’re being canceled online or you’re having a chronic financial crisis that lasts for years or feels like your whole life you’ve been attracting the shittiest circumstances, whatever it is. What got it to stop was I grew my strength and capacity. I grew it so big that I handled everything powerfully from that moment on. It did not suck my energy. It was one thing, an email or a threat, or a review with lies in it, or whatever it was, something would come up and it could take me out my whole day. And instead of it, it would come up and I had the capacity and the strength, I dealt with it and I moved right back into my power and the things I wanted to do with that day.

So I handled it powerfully. I stopped engaging with it mentally. I processed through it emotionally, like deeply, deeply processed through it emotionally. And then once I did that, I wasn’t available for it anymore or afraid of it anymore. And I never needed that Xanax because it didn’t happen again. My physical symptoms regressed the more powerful I got in my mind. I needed my highest level of personal power, my highest capacity.

So the answer I really believe, like from my hope, you know, from these two stories, like I really do understand. And I’ve coached so many people through way other different circumstances, but the answer isn’t to guard oneself from ever burning out. It’s not, “I either burn out or I just never push myself beyond my current energetic levels because I will burn out.” It’s the middle. It’s to increase your capacity to increase your emotional resilience to increase your mental capabilities to become bigger and more powerful than the circumstances.

And how you know you’ve achieved this is you will know that it will never happen. The current circumstances causing the stimulus, it will never happen again that way. Whatever it is. I’m not afraid of not having money again. I built my business with a negative bank account, not knowing where my next meal was going to come from. I do not have fear that I will go broke one day and end up living in a box and I will lose all my money. I see a lot of millionaires who make a lot of money and who still have that fear. I don’t have that fear anymore. I know I’m capable, especially as I’ve stewarded my business through some really hard years. I know I have the capability to steward it through anything. So I’m not scared of it.

I’m also not scared of being canceled anymore, period. I’m not scared of threats. I’m not scared of mistakes that I make in my business. And for those to be blown wildly out of proportion and then used to tear me down. I know exactly how I will personally address and take power over anything in the future that comes my way. I feel so at peace with it. I no longer feel controlled by it. I don’t have the fear of like, I hope it never happens again. Like notice when you even say that, like, I hope I don’t burn out again or I don’t want to ever burn out again. I don’t have that, I don’t want to ever experience this thing again, because I’m stronger than the thing I’m experiencing. So I don’t need to worry about it happening again because I’m stronger than it. Like, that’s how you know you’ve done this work, right?

In the same way that I don’t fear losing money and my business going under and living in a box, I am freed.

Becoming the version of myself that has this level of resilience and capability is freedom. I think you can have that from burnout. You can have freedom from burnout. Maybe that should have been the podcast title. But I think it’s important to say freedom from burnout starts with the middle ground. It starts with getting out of the black and white thinking. And then you start with this podcast episode, the things I’ve mentioned here.

It doesn’t mean you end here with emotional and mental training, and resilience, and capability. You just start here, right? Especially if you’re in that black and white thinking where you’re like, no, no, no, it was physical, it was overworking. Okay, great. But let’s start with the emotional aspect of the working. Let’s start with the mental part of working. Let’s address the mental and the emotional first because you’ll see how much energy that will create for you with the physical. You’ll see what a big part it plays if you start there.

When you start by eliminating or pulling back the physical, you don’t have the chance to address the mental and the emotional because you’ve now removed the physical part, the circumstance, and so then you just get to temporarily set aside the thoughts and emotions without actually making change. So that’s why we wanna address the mental and the emotional capacity first.

Okay, so if you wanna do this work with me, and you’re actually hearing this in real-time, live as it’s being released, it’s a reward for keeping up with the podcast, there is still time to join Capacity Work. Today, on the day that this podcast is released, is going to be call five of our live training and we’re gonna be coaching on physical capacity. So you could just jump right in today.

But after we conclude this week, we have call five and call six, and then after we conclude the live calls, there is still two weeks of access to watch the replays. And I will tell you, people have been buying them up until we had for a live, we had a couple of people buy with two days left. And then we were like, well, you know, there’s only two days of replays left. And they’re like, yep, I’m going to binge in two days. I’m getting it all. I want this training.

So there is time for access. You can listen at one and a half speed if you want, two times the speed if you want. I talk pretty fast already, but people do tell me they do that so they can listen multiple times. But you will have two weeks access after the live portion concludes to watch the replays and get them in and do this work. And the Facebook group will be open that entire time as well, so you’ll be able to jump in and engage. We have people jumping in all the time telling us it’s their first day, they just watched call one, and the vibe is there for that.

So replay access does end on April 13th, 2025. So you have a lot of time between this air date and April 13th. That’s a capacity thing. Believing you have a lot of time, two weeks is a lot of time.

You can join us at https://staceyboehman.com/capacitywork. Or if you’re driving, listening to this and you’re not going to remember that website, you can follow me or if you do follow me on social, you can comment all caps CAPACITY on any of the Capacity Work posts or live streams talking about the program on Facebook or IG, and we will automatically send you the link so you can sign up.

All right, I hope this whole episode was exactly what you needed to hear this week. I am sending all of the energy out to all of you, students, listeners, all of the people. I love you all so much. I would love to have you in Capacity Work, and I will talk to you next week. Bye-bye.

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